Two Weeks

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It has been two weeks since mom died in my arms as our caregiver and I were washing her, getting ready to put her in a fresh nightgown. I wonder? Did she feel us caring for her, gently cleaning her and knowing that, chose that moment to leave this world? I’d like to think she did. Mom almost got to ... Read More »

A Long Overdue Post

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It has been over three and a half years since my husband passed away. It also has been some time since I posted here. On July 30, 1971 I married my husband, Wayne, so it is a little over forty-three years ago that I married the love of my life. He was a wonderful husband, and we had a good ... Read More »

Tell Us: What’s Difficult Right Now?

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Adjusting to your caree’s death and to your life after caregiving ends is tough. Perhaps what makes it tough is that how you feel can differ from day to day and moment to moment. What was difficult yesterday may be feel easy today. And, what stressed you out this morning may not cause stress this afternoon. So, I’d love to ... Read More »

Next: Restore, Distance, Avoid

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Restore Distance Avoid You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Day By Day: Grieving and Healing

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Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn. ~ C. S. Lewis. Finding the energy to blog on has been difficult for me these past few months. Let’s face it, grieving can be a full-time ‘job’ which takes quite a bit of energy. But grieving can be healthy too. Today I experienced a form ... Read More »

Tell Us: What’s Been Your Toughest Transition?

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We know that beginnings follow an ending. But, oh, it can be so hard to begin again after caregiving ends. The beginning after caregiving ends includes so many adjustments. You adjust to more time, a different schedule, a house that looks different, a life that feels out of sync. Your days now feel like a constant transition from what was ... Read More »

Next: Advice, Plant, Roast

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Advice Plant Roast You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Next: Yell, Shatter, Retreat

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Yell Shatter Retreat You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

How Do We Honor the Past Without Living In It?

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So much happens during a caregiving situation that you can’t possibly process it all. So, when caregiving ends, you have now have time, which means your mind may linger in the past. Maybe you rewind events you wish you could change. Or perhaps you revisit memories you wish you could re-create. And, as you adjust to your life after caregiving, ... Read More »

Next: Marathon, Question, Shocking

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Marathon Question Shocking You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Next: Ache, Drop, Whine

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Ache Whine Drop You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

#aftercare Twitter Chat

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Let’s connect on Twitter to comfort and support each other in your life after caregiving ends. Our Twitter chat will happen every other Tuesday evening at 8 p.m. ET (7 p.m. CT, 5 p.m. PT) beginning Tuesday, July 8. I’ll lead our discussion by sharing questions; feel free to share your experiences and thoughts. To join our Twitter chat, just ... Read More »

#comfortcoffee on Mondays

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This past winter, we started an initiative on CareGiving.com called #coffeewithacaregiver. G-J, a CareGiving.com member sent check-in texts to Kathy, another CareGiving.com member caring for her husband during his final days. G-J decided the check-ins needed to be a bit more personal. “I’ve been trying to do something beside ask how she, her husband, or the weather are,” G-J explains. ... Read More »

Tornado: Response, Recovery and Laughter

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It is just about the two year anniversary of Spike’s passing.  Ninety-eight percent of his estate items have been addressed.  My daughter has begun school.  I have massively increased my scope and depth of the topics and people I work with working as an Emergency Management Disability Liaison.  Many new relationships have been forged as a result of my introductions ... Read More »

Memories of Comfort

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All the memories of wonderful times with my mother, even when she was in the nursing home. Sharing my grief with my brothers and their realization of how close my mom and I were, them protecting me during the weeks that followed from any negativity. Sharing with the caregivers in the nursing home, after everyone else was gone, crying with ... Read More »

Memories That Haunt

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The one memory that haunts me is when my mother, in her dementia, called me in a horrible panic, in tears, due to an electrical storm that was happening at the time. Since my mom was little she had been afraid of bad storms, as an adult she had been able to control this, but in her dementia she could ... Read More »

Next: Walk, Clouds, Green

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Walk Clouds Green You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Tell Us: Which Memories Comfort You?

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Last week, we shared about the memories that haunt you in your life after caregiving ends. This week, let’s share about the memories that comfort you. Tell us about the memories that make you smile, that warm your heart, that give you utter peace. Please share your comforting memories in our comments section, below. Related Articles Tell Us: What Memory ... Read More »