Tell Us: What’s Been Your Toughest Transition?

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We know that beginnings follow an ending. But, oh, it can be so hard to begin again after caregiving ends. The beginning after caregiving ends includes so many adjustments. You adjust to more time, a different schedule, a house that looks different, a life that feels out of sync. Your days now feel like a constant transition from what was ... Read More »

Next: Advice, Plant, Roast

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Advice Plant Roast You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Next: Yell, Shatter, Retreat

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Yell Shatter Retreat You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

How Do We Honor the Past Without Living In It?

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So much happens during a caregiving situation that you can’t possibly process it all. So, when caregiving ends, you have now have time, which means your mind may linger in the past. Maybe you rewind events you wish you could change. Or perhaps you revisit memories you wish you could re-create. And, as you adjust to your life after caregiving, ... Read More »

Next: Marathon, Question, Shocking

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Marathon Question Shocking You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Next: Ache, Drop, Whine

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Ache Whine Drop You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

#aftercare Twitter Chat

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Let’s connect on Twitter to comfort and support each other in your life after caregiving ends. Our Twitter chat will happen every other Tuesday evening at 8 p.m. ET (7 p.m. CT, 5 p.m. PT) beginning Tuesday, July 8. I’ll lead our discussion by sharing questions; feel free to share your experiences and thoughts. To join our Twitter chat, just ... Read More »

#comfortcoffee on Mondays

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This past winter, we started an initiative on CareGiving.com called #coffeewithacaregiver. G-J, a CareGiving.com member sent check-in texts to Kathy, another CareGiving.com member caring for her husband during his final days. G-J decided the check-ins needed to be a bit more personal. “I’ve been trying to do something beside ask how she, her husband, or the weather are,” G-J explains. ... Read More »

Tornado: Response, Recovery and Laughter

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It is just about the two year anniversary of Spike’s passing.  Ninety-eight percent of his estate items have been addressed.  My daughter has begun school.  I have massively increased my scope and depth of the topics and people I work with working as an Emergency Management Disability Liaison.  Many new relationships have been forged as a result of my introductions ... Read More »

Memories of Comfort

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All the memories of wonderful times with my mother, even when she was in the nursing home. Sharing my grief with my brothers and their realization of how close my mom and I were, them protecting me during the weeks that followed from any negativity. Sharing with the caregivers in the nursing home, after everyone else was gone, crying with ... Read More »

Memories That Haunt

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The one memory that haunts me is when my mother, in her dementia, called me in a horrible panic, in tears, due to an electrical storm that was happening at the time. Since my mom was little she had been afraid of bad storms, as an adult she had been able to control this, but in her dementia she could ... Read More »

Next: Walk, Clouds, Green

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Walk Clouds Green You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

Tell Us: Which Memories Comfort You?

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Last week, we shared about the memories that haunt you in your life after caregiving ends. This week, let’s share about the memories that comfort you. Tell us about the memories that make you smile, that warm your heart, that give you utter peace. Please share your comforting memories in our comments section, below. Related Articles Tell Us: What Memory ... Read More »

Have You Seen Your Butterfly?

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Another butterfly…yesterday was a beautiful but windy day. I was sailing on Long Island Sound, and was heading into the wind (on a “starboard beat”) which was gusting between 15-20 miles per hour. That may not seem like much on land, but it is a good stiff wind on the water. I was moving along with my main and jib ... Read More »

Tell Us: What Memory Haunts You?

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During your caregiving experience, you probably felt you never had enough time. Now that caregiving has ended, you feel like you have way too much time. And, with all that time comes too much thinking. Which means you think and think about what happened during caregiving. Chances are, you have a memory (or memories) which just haunt you. Perhaps it’s ... Read More »

Next: Finish, Replace, Carry

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Our next three words in our Community AfterGiving Journal are: Finish Replace Carry You can write about each separately in three separate posts. You can write about all three in one post. You can write sentences using all three words. In essence, you can write about the words in the way that feels right for you. Then, every week, I’ll ... Read More »

When Did You Change the Answering Machine Message?

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About nine years ago, I worked with John, who cared for his wife, who had cancer. After she died, he left her voice on the home’s answering machine. He left her voice on the answering machine for years. He couldn’t change it. It was her voice, his last audible reminder of her. The voice mail or answering machine message may ... Read More »